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Serotonin, Dopamine & Endorphins

Serotonin is a mood booster

Dopamine is a pleasure hormone

Endorphins block pain

Mine are broken.  My mood is apathetic & my dopamine and endorphins have gone on holiday I think, or my remaining serotonin killed them before killing itself.

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I’ve spent days trying to convince myself that talking about mental health is ok, and not a  glorified excuse for attention (thanks, brain!) It feels almost wrong to discuss it freely, like it’s still a taboo & when people ask how you are, they don’t actually want to know; they’re just being polite – this is my current perception of people in general at the minute.

I have depression – a chemical imbalance in my brain that has essentially switched me off.  You seen Inside Out? Where her core memories switch off?  It’s kind like that….sort of. but not really.  Everyone’s experience will vary & this is probably why I put off seeking help for as long as I did – if you read old posts on here, there’s definitely a few that have underlying tones of something not being *quite right* for me.

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Sadness is too sad to walk

However, my blog is not a mental health blog – it’s about my journey through fitness/strength.  I’m aware that you mindset has a lot to do with how you progress, which is the main point of this post……here comes the part that some may not agree with, however the perk of one’s own perceptions; amirite?

A while ago I wrote about how fitness quotes/memes for the most part irritate the living daylights out of me, I thought I’d gotten past that but I now know that I haven’t.  They seem to trigger something in my brain that makes me irrationally anti-motivation.  The buzz words that surround those whose lives are engulfed by the process of becoming stronger and leaner fill me with something that I cannot coherently explain.  I want to scream and shout that not all people think that way & just by saying something doesn’t mean it’ll happen – regardless on what some “fitspo” instagrammer has told you, it simply isn’t the case.

  • The difference between where you are & where you want to be is you!
  • You can be it, if you believe it- you can achieve it
  • Tell yourself you can & you will
  • Focus on being positive

When I started my blog a little over a year ago I hated the above sentiments. However, my personal drive to improve myself meant I chose to ignore them, or sometimes I might have even possibly believed a few – there’s plenty of motivational posts on my blog. That doesn’t mean I’ve aimed them at anyone in particular, that’s just how I felt at that specific time….all the while there was a belligerent part of my brain screaming, silently into a pillow. NO. NO. NO.

No one ever seems to want to talk about what happens when the above sentiments are interpreted as hostile. I’ve been to the gym three times in three weeks.  Do I care? No.  Do I feel bad about it? No. Will reading positivity garbage on line help me get back into my gym routine? No.

I believe that I should be able to teleport to wherever I want to go…..Does that mean I can? No.  What if I focus that I positively believe that it should be achievable, will that make it happen? No.  SO WHY SPOUT THIS STUFF ONLINE?!

That seems a little extreme doesn’t it? Well, what about those who want to do something fitness related, who have tried in the past but given up for whatever reason.  Is reading the positivity going to help someone who is in a dark place go back? I don’t think so.

I have a huge, huge vexation with telling people to be positive – you’re essentially forcing your discomfort of someone else’s unhappiness/numbness/apathy away & life doesn’t work like that.  Ever told a boy that he shouldn’t cry? You’re forcing them to hide their emotions, to block the negativity that they feel instead of talking about it, or allowing them that moment to be vulnerable & at one with how they feel.

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It’s ok to break.

It’s ok to not be happy.

It’s ok to not smile.

It’s ok.

I’ve been hiding my mental state for probably longer than I’d like to admit. I’ve put my woes to a backburner & chose to forget about them, I’ve not acknowledged the spiral in my head & how lost I have felt at times & how I felt like I was drowning in a swathe of emotions that no one wanted to talk about.

I know the gym* & personal trainers are not a place for therapy or qualified to help you in dire times of distress – that’s what counsellors & shrinks are for.  I’m also not saying that you should expect this kind of service from your fitness professionals, what I am saying is that “sucking it up” helps no one.  The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over & over again expecting different results – so even if you train enough to keep your dopamine & serotonin levels high, don’t neglect your feelings on an intimate, almost subconscious level.  Showing the world you feel ok & actually being ok are two completely different things.

Also, if you ever tell someone that you feel sad/empty/upset and they tell you to smile, be positive & to get over it, take a hint from Bronson:

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*The gym is a great place to destress & exercising can increase your dopamine levels but it’s not going to fix the issues inside your mind

 

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Enjoy The Little Things

Often, as it is in a variety of aspects of life; the little things can be overlooked and sometimes; forgotten. This post is for them.

Over the last few weeks I have done the following:

  • Lost around 8lb (4kg) gradually & am maintaining it
  • Achieved above body weight on a machine in the gym
  • Didn’t lose my temper when I couldn’t lift the same weight (this is probably HUGE though)
  • My left arm tricep deficit looks to have caught up to my right, finally.

I also seem to have increased in skill level for baking:

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The are blueberry & chocolate blondies & they’re incredible!  

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I also made Protein cheesecake 🙂

In my training journey; I’m finally starting to see upper body definition – I’ve always had a really weak/inferior upper body, favouring my legs (I used to sprint, do long jump, cycle as well as relay when I was a lot younger)  I have pictures!!

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Oh, yeah….I’ve also got back in to deadlifting, now I have a stronger core/quads.

I have a crazy amount of happy going on inside me, it’s all kinds of wonderful.  Andy had some awesome words to say about me today:

EMPOWERMENT

I’ve always believed that to truly achieve long term change that we need to really explore things for OURSELVES.

Granted we all need the correct guidance and help, something I myself have been fortunate to be afforded over the years from some very good people. However rather than just being a dictator or having people do as I say, with everything I like to get people to really find out what it is they want not only from their training but how it will make the other parts of their lives better and other peoples.

There are times when we all need to be told certain HOME TRUTHS but also times when to be asked the right questions that lead to us really looking into and researching for ourselves what we really want to achieve and how to get there, rather than just to be told this is the only way etc.

I’m unbelievably PROUD that many people I train are not only making physical progress but really making GREAT progress with other aspects of what they do.

One GREAT example of this is Sarah Watson going from a chronic debilitating back injury and addicted to painkillers along with other serious issues, to her now helping not only herself but others with their own fitness journey. Sarah does this via her own fantastically written blog: goalsforgains.wordpress.com. that covers her journey in a style that is not typical of the fitness industry.

For Sarah Watson to do this from where she started from physically is a monumental achievement as is the way she has used this to help her mentally along the way. But even more importantly Sarah has used what she has learned and is constantly still learning to HELP not only HERSELF but OTHERS aswell.

For me to see someone achieve all of this with fitness being the driving force behind it is my true idea of a success story, as it’s not just 1 person that has gained from her achievements but many others. Sarah has INSPIRED these people through being EMPOWERED to follow what inner talent she has.

This post has been a bit of a ramble, for that I apologise, just wanted to get some stuff jotted down & all of this didn’t feel like it warranted single posts.

TL; DR: Everything is aweome!!


Motivation Requires Sacrifice

Whilst I was walking home from the school run my mind wandered to my Instagram post from this morning, I’m a massive convert to TimeHop; I find it fascinating to read over my posts from years ago – talk of cookies, eating whole tubs of ice-cream, being overwhelming tired & having pain that excruciating I needed steroid injections to stem it. Along with many, many rage posts.  It’s strange to read them sometimes & others have me instantly flashing back to the precise moment that they happened.

Anyway. Back to Instagram…..I walked past the mirror mid-getting dressed & I was pretty fucking pleased with my reflection.  My other half reckons I can’t walk past a mirror without looking in it & he’s right. I make no excuses for my narcissism, and have no intention of changing. I don’t make it a habit (much) to take photos of my reflection; in fact a massive pet peeve of mine is those who snap selfies in the mirror & look at their reflection instead of the camera lens.

I’ll admit, changing has not been easy – there are still days where I don’t want to cycle to work, let alone the gym and sometimes I will allow the want to be “lazy” and get the bus. I always pine for my bike when I do though.  However, the point in this post is to give some of my tips to stay the course & become the person you’ve only ever been able to dream about.

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TIPS:

  • Invest in a Personal Trainer – I know this may seem like a major expense, but even if you see them once a month & then follow a programme they have set for you will help!  In my early weeks going to the gym I only went if I felt like it. Paying to see Andy meant that I had to go, he sets me things to do without him & I know the next time I see him, he will ask if I’ve been to the gym since the last time we met.
  • Stay the course – It sounds easy enough; Go to the gym, train, ???, PROFIT. It really isn’t that simple though. We have, as a human race become so dependant on machines to do things for us. Yes, technology has advanced so we don’t have to hunt for our food or walk miles to get to places but does that mean we should be complacent with our health?  Training requires effort, it’s hard graft – if it was easy then everyone would do it.
  • Nutrition. Nutrition. Nutrition – Food!  Glorious food!  Anyone who reads this regularly will know I love food.  What you eat is tantamount to what you do in the gym, if not more so. Reduce the carbs & increase the protein is a good starting point.  I didn’t realise what a negative effect not eating correctly could do.  Seriously.  All that effort put in to training to lose it from eating poorly? Don’t forget to stay hydrated too!  I’ve seen what dehydration during sports looks like & it does not look like a pleasant experience.
  • It will hurt – After my first leg day I wondered if I’d ever be able to walk again properly. I wish I was joking, but I’m really not. When I was much, much younger I used to run cross-country at school & my legs never hurt to the degree a proper leg day gets you. It’s not just your legs either; ever tried to take a sports bra off after doing a silly amount of skull crushers & chest presses? No? It’s almost impossible.  How about laughing after crunches?  I’ve done it, it gave me muscle cramp in my abs which I couldn’t stretch back out for ages!
  • Weights! – If there is another reason to invest time with a Trainer, I can’t think of a better one than learning to use weights effectively. When I started going to the gym I spent most of my time on cardio machines, wishing I was fitter or dead….whichever was gonna come faster!  Cardio has its place, but I now believe it should be for warming up as opposed to the reason you go to the gym. Lifting heavy shit is awesome & with the right guidance is really, really awesome.  The feeling of beating a personal best? Incredible!  I did 90kg the other day – a good 20kg more than my body weight.
  • REST! – I know I’ve said stick at it, eat well, train hard but all of that work & effort is worth nothing without looking after yourself. I have two rest days a week – my days off work & Saturday is an “Only cycle” day, as the gym opens too late for me. The most important thing is to give your body the recovery time it needs, if that’s 4 rest days a week to begin with then so be it.  However, never drop them entirely. They are vital!

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Remember the slump I had?  The confidence knock & wondering whether training was worth it in case I hurt myself? Yeaaaaah.  That’s gone.

I’m currently sprawled on the sofa, wearing a dressing gown & supping from a giant cup of coffee – HOWEVER don’t let my image of listlessness be disheartening to you – it’s late & I’ve been at work all day.

On the way home the other night I had an overwhelming sense of calm, contentedness & a feeling that I’ve never been able to convey in words – er, euphoria might be close. It’s been a while since I felt like that regarding training.  I don’t know if it has something to do with the fact my training has ramped up or whether I’m just generally more happy.  A lot of credit has to be given to endorphins; my PT can vouch for that – when I first met him I was pretty angry & got wound up relatively easily.  Happy hormones are incredible!!!

I’m back on Fitocracy & adding my workouts to it a lot more regularly than I had in the past.  The weather is beginning to improve & the light of day is staying for longer which makes for a nicer cycle to & from work and the gym.

I was asked a few questions today from a friend who hasn’t seen me since before I started training; she commented on my weight loss and said I’d inspired her to go to the gym more often.

Questions:

Do you get cravings for food that is unhealthy?

Not really, no.  In the beginning satiating my want for certain foods was hard but not any more.

Do you not just fancy a Big Mac some days?

No. I never really ate fast food before I started training so being without really doesn’t bother me.

What about giving in to a craving? Have you do that?

Yes, absolutely. I won’t lie about eating – sure I’ve had cake, ice cream, dirty carbs and sweets in the past 6 months.  I don’t feel bad about it. The odd treat isn’t going to reverse all I’ve achieved, so there is no guilt.

 Is the cake I’ve seen you make really taste as good as normal cake?

Yes & no. Some that I have made that taste incredible but there have been some that have been thrown away after the first taste.  It’s all about experimenting to see what works well.

Er, so yeah.  the past week or so has had me remember the reason I started training & holding on to the goal I had in the first place.  I’ve had a lot of time off this year due to injury and I’m determined to not do it again….I know I shouldn’t think about where I could be had I not being in two accidents in such a short space of time, but I have.  It got to me, it started to gnaw away at me, and could have put an end to my training if I’d have let it.  I’ve never said I was a competitive person, I’m not.  I’m stubborn, I HATE things defeating me, I hate being beaten by something & will fight tooth & nail to overcome the hurdle.  I’m not beaten, not by a long shot.

The year is still young & I still have a lot to prove!


Either You Do It, Or You Don’t.

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Well, today has been a rest day BUT a rest day like no other!  Today, despite my thighs screaming at me every time I move (can I get a “Hell Yeah!” for walking lunges??) I decided to do a few standard squats at home. I took pictures.  Wanna see?

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So, first thing about this, image on the left is the first squat I did, image on the right is how I corrected it.  I also noticed today I do this little foot wiggle before I squat; I should film it & show you on day.

I don’t normally notice stuff like this as my PT corrects me, so had I not have taken the picture I’d have not noticed and continued with my little set in the incorrect form. There’s some conflicting info on-line; some say “Do It & Do It Properly” and others say “Doing it badly, is better than not at all” So, which is it?  Or could it be both?

Begin, but it might be wrong.  That’s okay because as you get fitter, you get better & you do it properly?

I’d have to choose do it right, or don’t do it, especially seeing as how I’m still in the process of strengthening my core; they have to be correct or I could quite probably hurt myself.

So!  FORM CHECK! Make sure your move is correct before you continue.  If you’re in the gym, go with a buddy if you’re without a trainer, or use the mirrors – be a narcissist! Watch yourself in the mirror (Be careful of joins in the glass though, one of those can be off-putting if they’re not flush to the wall) if you’re unsure, Google the correct posture for whatever move it may be. Photograph or film it & adjust as necessary.

Doing it right all the time also stops you from picking up bad habits, like as we grow we forget about squats but toddlers can do them so well!

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My youngest making it look easy in Spring 2011

It’d probably be hard to remember it for your entire life though.  Clearly something happens to children for them to forget this.  It is school? Is it?  I don’t know & I’m not up for debating that!


OMG! You’re So Inspirational!!

**Just a quick note, this has taken me the better part of three days to write**

Mmmmmmmmmm.  Inspirational.

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When I hear that word I think of Marie Curie, Florence Nightingale, Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, and Pope Francis.  You know? The greats that have influenced change in the world.

Not me.

I don’t see it.  Am I humble? Perhaps. Some may think I’m wrong.  That’s ok too.  I’ve searched the web, asked some friends & gained a little insight about inspiration; who knows.  I might convince myself by the time I reach the end of this post!

Inspiration; in its most layman sense is seeing something that drives you to want to do it yourself.  I’ve been told I’m inspiring, that I’ve made others want to change their lifestyle because of what I do, that because of me they want to lift and that’s great!

I know my trainer uses my transformation to help motivate others; which is still surreal to me.  Maybe I’m modest? I don’t wanna push my love of training on to others, so maybe I’m not wanting to accept that some people really are inspired by what I’m doing. Maybe it’s a mind thing? (before I started going to the gym regularly, the “fitspo” posts drove me mental. A lot of motivation/inspiration quotes still rub me the wrong way….that’s for another post!)

So, a perfect example of fitness inspiration:

“My brother-in-law has a spinal injury caused over in Afghanistan after an explosion he was left with 2 crushed disks and 3 slipped disks, Physio didn’t work for him and they wouldn’t operate as the risk and damage was too much, he’s now in training for mid July to complete a 30 mile bike ride and his spine and nerve damage seems to be improving with his training. We are talking gone from not being able to walk without aid down the hall way to being able to ride 10-12 miles a day.. The change is amazing…. Made me want to challenge myself.”

Is that like me?  No.  Am I an inspiration? Well, I didn’t think so.  I visited a friend this morning & she reminded me where I was last year, pain & level of activity wise I am now a different person.  I am that way because I chose to change, so if people know my history & that prompts them to want to better themselves, the so be it.  I’m no where near the level of inspirational greatness, but if one person decides to strive for a better way of life because of me, then I guess I’ll accept the fact I can be inspirational.

It’s still odd though!!

I’ll leave you with an image that is inspirational to me:

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“I Wish I Were As Motivated As You”

I hear & read this all the time.  Motivation.  It’s a fickle word, I don’t like it.  Allow me to explain; the dictionary meaning of motivation is:

The act or an instance of motivating, or providing with a reason to act in a certain way.

It can be too easy to say “Oh, I’m not feeling motivated today. So I won’t do X” Motivation BREEDS excuses.  Motivation (or lack of) gives you a reason to stop.  You can justify your stopping because, well….let’s face it. You’re just not motivated, so why bother?

I’ve used the same reasoning to not go to the gym.  I was too tired, or it was too late, or there was always tomorrow.

I found a quote on-line about being determined instead of motivated & it drastically changed my outlook.  I saved it, but whoever originally posted it has since taken it down.  However, I’ll try & explain.

Motivation is good to begin with, if it gets you off the sofa.  However, let’s imagine that motivation is like a countdown clock….you’ve got LOADS to begin with, but it will gradually begin to decrease.  Oh. Woe.  No more motivation…..*crawl back to the sofa* Or at least that’s how it was for me.

I forget about motivation now.  Motivation gets me out of bed, motivation to get a coffee down me, etc.  Now I live for determination.  Make a goal (yeah, I know.  I don’t have one, per se) write that shit down & STICK. TO. IT! Your motivation will dry up & fade, being determined to see something through?  That does not go away!  Determination trumps motivation. Every. Time.

The act of coming to a decision or of fixing or settling a purpose.

Determination is why I get up at 5:45am, determination is why I force food in to my face, determination is why I cycle 6 miles to the gym, determination is why I do things I never thought possible a few months ago.  If I have to cycle through snow to work out, I will.  If I have to stop every 10 minutes to blow my nose I will.  I will never give up.  I will never quit.

Yeah, there will be times when it hurts. There will be times when you fail, and times where you simply do not want to go and train. It happens, it’s how you deal with it that matters.  Will that set-back stop you? Is there even *any* point to continue? Only you can answer those.  You’re not alone, even the fitness greats will have experienced set-backs, no one ever achieved anything by failing.

I’ve accomplished too much in a relatively short space of time to blow it all. I don’t need meds, I don’t need to worry about when the last time I took one was because I have to “keep my levels topped up” I don’t think I can’t do that, because of my back.

Then there’s the whole inspiration thing, which I’ll leave for another post……